So when I was pushed by the Divine into giving readings (yes, I resisted, a lot) I resolved that when people gave me the gift of their confidence, trust, time and money folks were going to leave with answers and advice. That’s my responsibility as a reader. But there are also plenty of points to keep in mind for those who are looking to receive a reading.
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Come prepared. Have an intention or overall purpose for getting a reading. That will help you to save time, money and get what you want. Along the same line, put together a list of questions beforehand and consider bringing with you meaningful materials that may help the connection such as journals, found objects and heirlooms. Check out the reader’s website or ask the person ahead of time if there’s anything to prepare. Every reader has a slightly different process—there’s no 1 valid way. Make sure you’re ready too. Get yourself as energetically clear as you’re able so you can be clearly seen and can receive what’s given more openly. This means being free of toxins (drunk or stoned, really?), emotionally stable as possible and grounded. It’s definitely never a bad idea to ask whatever divine source(s) you choose for help in being available to what comes through as well.
Don’t waste anyone’s time. If you go into the reading wanting to “test” the reader you’re not helping the process. The momentum and intention you’ve created isn’t to receive support. Skepticism is just fine, but if it’s so strong that it clouds the experience you’re not going to get what you’re looking for. No matter what.
Listen carefully. Take notes if you need/want to or perhaps even better still request a recording or plan on bringing your own recorder. You’d be surprised at what you miss or mishear. A reading is an investment, likely not something you get every day, so why not plan on capturing it?
Try to not get hung up on “wrong” answers. What’s said might not be 100% accurate in the present moment or even in retrospect, but understand that it might be what you need to hear. Sometimes being told that the person you’re seeing is “the one” is just the thing to get you to look at your significant other seriously as a life partner. This happened to a friend of mine and it was the kick in the butt she needed to break it off.
Validation is not a bad thing. When you already know all that’s being said instead of seeing the experience as a waste of time and money why not give yourself a pat on the back? See, you really can trust yourself and that may have been the big-picture point all along. Remember that the next time your ego starts throwing doubts at you about your intuition.
Who you go to matters. Professional readers may not be better sources than amateur ones, but pros likely have more experience which helps them to be aware of trends (who doesn’t like to know they’re not the only ones going through something right now?), be more familiar with what filtering information feels like and be less likely to fall into that trap, and able to give solid advice that’s worked for others. Please don’t be swayed by cost. It isn’t a predictable indicator of skill. But please do listen to any kind of inspiration you receive to choose one person or another, even if it means going against a recommendation you received.
There are no guarantees. The future is not set in stone, really. All of your actions influence the future (no matter how small) so what’s stated may not come to pass. Don’t bet the farm on predictions.
What you have to say is important. Try not to interrupt the flow too often. For a reader stepping out of the stream of incoming energy to answer questions repeatedly can make stepping back in a bit challenging and may have an effect on the quality of information that’s provided. When in doubt wait a moment to see where things are going and maybe the answer to your question will come without you having to ask it out loud. Do give feedback, though, whether positive or negative, to let the reader know if she/he is on the right track.
Check your expectations. Try not to be too attached to what you have in mind to be addressed because what’s revealed may likely be more important in the grand scheme of things. Also open yourself up to a different explanation than what you think is true and do your best to not be disappointed if you don’t get the answer you wanted. Yes, some folks invest that heavily in the stories they tell themselves. Be aware that you may be asked to provide details about what’s going on so a deeper level of guidance can be given. Please don’t interpret the requests for more detail as evidence of an unskilled reader. In fact it can save time (and therefore money) by avoiding going over history or other information you already know. Further, sometimes how tightly you hold onto information can make you unavailable to receive fully what can be given. Release some of your grip and make room for guidance. Lastly, please oh please don’t go looking to be told what to do. This is your life, treat it with the respect it deserves and make your own choices.
A reading is your time. Do what you can to ensure that you get what you need and want while keeping and open mind and trusting that you are always supported. Then you're golden.